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A pastoral letter from the Bishop

A Pastoral Statement from the Bishop of New Jersey
April 15, 2020

Greetings in the Name of the Risen Christ!

Jesus commanded us to “love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind,” and to “love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:37). In our response to the COVID19 pandemic, we in the Diocese of New Jersey are prioritizing the love of God and God’s people over all other concerns. From late February when we had to make the first difficult decision to postpone our Diocesan Convention, through the suspension of in-person worship services, every directive I have issued has been toward this end and this end alone.

We are likely now at the apex of Coronavirus infections in the State of New Jersey. During this time, it is projected that our hospitals and health care facilities will be completely overwhelmed. As the infection rate peaks and hospitalizations increase, New Jersey is expected to face a critical shortage of ventilators. Moreover, our health care personnel and first responders do not currently have adequate protective equipment to keep them safe. This means that every unnecessary, avoidable infection places, not only the person infected in extreme jeopardy, it also endangers our first responders and health care providers.

While authorizing travel for “religious purposes,” the spirit and letter of the Governor’s Executive Orders #104 and 107 is clearly to encourage us all to remain at home except as absolutely necessary. He is not alone. Doctors, nurses, first responders and all those who are required to be out and place themselves at risk are begging those of us who do not need to go out to remain at home. Social media is filled with health-care providers’ profile pictures framed with the words, “Protect my life; stay at home!” or “I go to work to keep you safe; please stay at home to keep me safe.” Given the heroic sacrifices that they are all making in the most trying conditions, I believe we have a sacred and moral obligation to do what they are begging us to do.

With this conviction, I directed that small groups should not continue going to our church buildings to live stream or record video worship unless those involved live together. The current directives governing the use of our church buildings will remain in effect at least through the month of May. Many of the members of our congregations are numbered among those considered “vulnerable.” Caring for them demands a conservative and cautious response. As we move through this crisis, I will be following the guidance of The New Jersey Department of Health, the Governor’s Office and consulting people who have expertise, especially as we consider when and how we will exit this current mode of being church.

Some believe that I am allowing the government to repress the free practice of our religion. This is not true. I am allowing myself and the Diocese to be driven by Christ’s commandment to love our neighbors and to do to others as we would have them do to us. While small groups of people may indeed have the Constitutional right to go to our churches and video services, the question we must ask is ought they to do this in this current environment? Just because we can do something, should we?

In addition to asking myself these questions, I have received numerous e-mails from people who are worried and concerned that my allowing this sort of on-line worship placed people at risk unnecessarily. I have heard from persons worried about their clergy persons, who have underlying health concerns who, despite my urging to the contrary, felt compelled to go to church and participate in the on-line videoing of the service.

Similarly, Church musicians have contacted me, deeply concerned about their own health and safety. As someone also recently said to me, “we don’t want people driving unnecessarily either. You don’t want to end up in the hospital from a car accident these days.” As I have participated in offering on-line, live worship from church sanctuaries and watched others offering it, I have seen slip-ups that, in fact, could be life threatening.

Given the very real threats that we now face and the reality that we have viable options for on-line worship that do not require groups, no matter how small, to go to our churches, thereby risking spreading the contagion, I concluded that I ought not to encourage, and should not allow, the practice of “skeleton crews” to continue going to our churches while we are in the height of this crisis.

If, by our abundance of caution, born of God’s commandment that we love one another, we can prevent even one person from becoming infected, if we can keep one physician from having to make the awful decision of which patient they need to provide a ventilator for over another, or prevent one first-responder from having to go to the home of one of our members who got sick because they were infected by another in putting together on-line worship, then our temporary sacrifices will be both right and worth it.

Again, the sole objective of my directive is for us to “love our neighbors as ourselves,” by reducing the risk of spreading COVID-19 to as low a level as humanly possible, while recognizing that we have a responsibility to carry out Christ’s mission. And we are carrying out Christ’s mission, albeit, in ways very different than any of us are used to or could have imagined.

Faith, worship, and fellowship are a lifeline for our people in times such as this. We simply have to do these differently than we do in “normal” times. Moreover, because people are sheltering at home, and because they are anxious and afraid, we need to make more of an effort to reach out to them. This will require a genuine partnership of lay and ordained leaders engaging in so-called phone-trees, “coffee hour” Zoom meetings, and in other creative ways.

While we are offering on-line worship services from the Diocese, it is not my intent to centralize worship at the Diocesan level. As I have said to clergy and lay leaders in my weekly Zoom Town Halls, I encourage clergy and congregations to engage in on-line worship. My staff and I have often expressed in our various Town Hall and Focus Group meetings how inspired and encouraged we are at the number of congregations offering online worship and formation, and the creativity and variety of offerings presented. This was especially true during Holy Week and Easter. I am profoundly grateful to the clergy who worked incredibly hard and showed enormous creativity in offering worship that was rich and meaningful.

For those who need help, we offer assistance and advice on holding on-line worship to congregations that wish it.

I value the community and relationships that individual congregations share with one another and want us to sustain these practices long after we are once again able to gather in person. We are offering worship at the diocesan level for those congregations—of which we have many—that don’t have the resources to do it themselves or who don’t have clergy to do it.

Please do note, I am qualifying my previous directive in one respect: Clergy have my permission to perform grave-side services for those who have died, but only with a limited number of immediate family and in no case more than 10 persons. The use of church buildings for funerals is still prohibited until further notice.

I am aware that some point to retail stores being open, and sloppiness about “social distancing” being common in the marketplace and ask why we are observing such stringent standards in the face of this. In addition, some are challenged by the idea that businesses like liquor stores and gun shops are considered “essential businesses” and wonder why houses of faith are not viewed to be just as essential.

I believe we are very essential. I also have questions about some of the businesses that have received the “essential designation.” The poor safe-distancing and hygiene practices at many public places concern me deeply. There is little I can do about these things.

In reflecting about all this, I think of my response to my children when they were growing up and would ask to do something that a neighbor’s child or friend of theirs were doing, “well so and so is doing it!” My answer was always the same: “We’re not so and so; we’re the Stokes family.” My response in today’s context is: “We’re not so and so; we’re the Church and we are called to love our neighbors as ourselves.” This means doing everything we can to protect others.

Because it is possible to carry the Coronavirus and be asymptomatic, and because we have not achieved the capacity to test everyone, we must all work under the assumption that we are infected and could infect someone else. This is why the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the World Health Organization, the advisors to the President and the advisors to Governor Murphy and local health authorities are all strongly urging us all to stay home except when it is completely unavoidable. We have options for worship, prayer, and study that do not require us to venture forth. We must use these as well as we are able. We must also be sensitive to the reality that others have no choice but to go forth, and that oftentimes those who earn the least in our society are placed the most at risk.

Paul’s Letter to the Philippians articulates one of the great theological underpinnings of the Incarnation and Christ’s passion. Paul writes:

Let the same mind be in you that was in Christ Jesus,
who, though he was in the form of God,
did not regard equality with God
as something to be exploited,
but emptied himself,
taking the form of a slave,
being born in human likeness.
And being found in human form,
he humbled himself
and became obedient to the point of death—
even death on a cross.
Therefore God also highly exalted him
and gave him the name
that is above every name,
so that at the name of Jesus
every knee should bend,
in heaven and on earth and under the earth,
and every tongue should confess
that Jesus Christ is Lord,
to the glory of God the Father.

In this strange, challenging, indeed, life-threatening season, we, as members of the body of Christ, are being asked to “empty ourselves”—to be Christ-like and give up much that is precious and life-giving to us, to do so out of our love for our neighbors. In the name of this same love, I am asking for people to stay at home as much as they are able and to offer worship from their homes, with the exception of worship teams who live together, in which case working together to produce on-line worship in the sanctuary does not add additional risk. I am asking people to stay as safe as they possibly can and to keep others safe.

In a recent post from Sojourner’s Magazine, the Presiding Bishop of The Episcopal Church, the Most Rev. Michael Curry, is quoted with words that should speak to all of us this Easter season:

“If the message of Easter is about [new life], then for us to fast from gathering for worship is our following the path of new life, new life for those who we might be hurt by gathering together and new life for us by learning to live—not for self alone, but for others and for God—that’s resurrection.”
May God bless you and those you love and keep you safe and healthy.

The Right Reverend William H. Stokes, D.D.
12th Bishop of New Jersey

The Church Building is Closed, message from Rick

As you all probably know, the Bishop has directed the cancellation of all public worship in the Diocese, and has closed all buildings to public gatherings. I’m also closing the church office. Please do not come here. I have a dry cough, and we just don’t need to be spreading anything person-to-person. (I’m fine.) However, DO feel free to call me on my cell (301) 697-9139 with a pastoral concern. Or if you have a more general issue you can still call Ann Millan at the main church number which she will be monitoring from home (908) 766-9058.
My focus in these next few days, weeks, …… is to find ways to stay connected to each other and our faith in this time when we can’t physically gather but when we are going to need each other and our faith perhaps more than ever.
To that end, I’m starting several initiatives immediately.
1) Sunday worship will go live on Facebook and YouTube at 10AM. I’m working on ways to keep it from just me being a “talking head” and to keep us all engaged. I’ve added YouTube to our streaming options because I know some of you don’t have Facebook. If you just click on the link here you’ll be taken to our streaming page on YouTube, which right now has a static image of the church, but which will be where the service will “pop on” when we go live.
2) We are going to be doing Morning Prayer LIVE every single day for the foreseeable future. I’m doing this because, let’s face it, we’re all going to have plenty of time on our hands, and because starting our day with prayer is a good thing to do. If you follow us on Facebook, you can add prayer intentions right there in the comment thread, and we can actually pray as a community.
3) I’m going to be adding a thread to both our Facebook and Instagram pages every single day asking for people to add their own prayer intentions. This is a place where we can all share our concerns, worries, fears, and joys with each other.
4) I’m encouraging everyone in the parish to call someone else in our parish family every single day. Again, it’s not like we’re going to be busy! AND, there are people who don’t have access to the internet whose only connection to St Mark’s is going to be your phone call. So, call your friends, but also call someone you don’t know. Tell them you’re a member of St Mark’s too, and that you’re just calling to say hi. Maybe you could even offer them a prayer. If you already have the church directory app, great. If not you can find out how to get it here. And, if you don’t do apps, email/call the office and we will send you copy of the directory.
During the first three centuries of Christianity, public gatherings were illegal, and attending a gathering of worship could get you arrested, tortured, or killed. The church didn’t just survive in those days. It thrived. It spread like wildfire. As much as the Empire tried to snuff it out it just grew, and grew, and grew until the Empire could do nothing else but become Christian itself.
We can do this. We can be there for each other. We can be there for our neighbors. We can be there for the world. We can be there for people who are consumed with fear. We can be there for people who don’t know what to do.
Together, and with God’s help, we can.
Fr Rick

Coronavirus Preparations

Friends, I’ve been receiving SO many questions, comments, and suggestions regarding the Coronavirus – which is good. It means that we are all thinking about how we can best navigate this health crisis together, and keep ourselves and our community safe.

1.  If you are experiencing any cold/flu symptoms, please don’t come to church. If you are worried about your immune system, and fear that you are especially at-risk, please also use your best judgement whether you should come or not. Remember, our 10AM Sunday Service is broadcast live on Facebook, videos from the Adult Forum are posted on our website, the Sunday Sermon is posted to YouTube and available on the website, and we have several prayer services scheduled online throughout the week as well. Online spirituality only gets you so far, but in this time it might just get us through to the other side of the crisis.

2.  At St Mark’s, we’ve put “hand-shaking” on hold, especially during the passing of the peace. We can still great one another verbally, and we can even do the “elbow bump,” but for now let’s not use hand-contact, which is the surest way to spread germs.

3.  We have “Purell” bottles spread throughout the whole building. In addition to hand washing, please feel free to use them liberally.

4.  As for Communion, we are not going to stop offering the Common Cup. The common wisdom is that between the metal chalice and the alcohol in the wine, the common cup self-sanitizes. There has never been a reported case of someone contracting any disease, ever, from Communion. However, during this health crisis, if you would feel more prudent to refrain from receiving the wine, we will totally understand. There is a rather ancient theological pronouncement called “the Doctrine of Concomitance,” which says that we receive 100% of Jesus in the bread, and 100% of Jesus in the wine. If you only take the Bread, you aren’t missing out on some part of Jesus. You don’t get 50% in one and the other 50% in the other.  You’re already getting all of Him.

5.  And, let us pray. Let us pray for those already affected by the Coronavirus, those who have been exposed, those who in the medical and scientific communities who are trying to get a handle on this, those with compromised immune systems, and all of us who are trying to navigate this time with faith and not fear.


Fr Rick

Luke 20:9-19 by Andrew Hargy (J2A)


A man went away on a trip and left his vineyard to be maintained by some farmhands. During his trip the man would send servants to collect the profits from the vineyard for him. He did this three times. Each time the farmhands would either beat the servant, or work them to an inch of death and leave them in the street and send them off empty-handed.

 The man thought that if he sent his own son, the farmhands will respect him and give him the profits that he was owed. The man however did not think that the farmhands would kill his son.  The farmhands believed that killing the son would allow them to keep the vineyard to themselves. The man, instead of collecting the money himself, had other people collect it for him, resulting in the deaths of his son and servants.

This parable shows that in order to achieve your goals and do the things you want to do, you have to do it yourself. You have to take the initiative. You can’t just live life thinking that someone is going to do it for you, because thousands to millions of people are also thinking the same way. If everyone has that kind of mindset then nothing will happen and we will become stagnant. The only reason we are moving forward in society is because of the people who are themselves actively participating. Be a leader, not a follower. Be proactive, not reactive.

Philippians 2:5 – 11 by Ryan Hargy (J2A)


A man of great power, is equal to slaves. Christ becomes humble, not because of outside forces, but because he wants to. He wills it. Christ is the son of god and an equal to man.

 The beginning of the passage starts off with “Think of yourselves the way Christ Jesus thought of himself”. Stop. Pause for a minute, or a second, and reflect. Think. What does it mean to be humble? How am I humble?

Do we look down upon people in our society? Perhaps, people who aren’t as well off as we are. Do you look down upon them and say “they did this to themselves” and ignore their pleas? Truth be told, some of us have seen people in need and turned away. Be humble, see others not as lower than you, but as equals. Smile with them, laugh with them, console them. See each other as brothers and sisters, and not as different.  


Philippians 3:8-14 by Ben Larner (Rite 13)


This passage is about many different things, but most importantly it focuses on loving God and Jesus above everything else. It talks about throwing out everything they used to take credit, for so they could embrace Christ. They wanted to know Christ personally, experience his resurrection power, be a partner in his suffering and go all the way with him to death itself. They wanted to resurrected above all else, which in my opinion defeats the purpose of everything they’re doing.

I think that the person throwing away everything relates to our lives because may people do throw a lot of things away to be with Christ. It relates to me because sometimes I can’t do things because I come to church



Following Jesus isn’t easy.

I mean, loving your neighbor sounds all well and good…until you start contemplating who your neighbor actually is.

Forgiving people sounds fine, as long as we keep it to the people who just cut us off in traffic.

Loving and praying for our enemies? Forget it.

Being a peacemaker has a ring of nobility to it if we’re talking about peace in the middle east or something… but what about peace in our hearts, our homes, our relationships?

For two thousand years, Christians have had a school for helping people learn and follow this way. At this school the scriptures are read and wrestled with. Prayers of thanksgiving are offered for all the blessings we’ve been given. We seek forgiveness for the ways we’ve fallen short of the kind of life we’re meant to live. And we gather around a table where we’re offered a meal.

This school… well… it meets on Sunday mornings. Here at St. Mark’s in Basking Ridge school meets at 8AM and 10AM.

From January 7th to Easter Sunday (April 1st) there are thirteen Sundays.

What if you committed to coming to church for these 13 Sundays? Or, if you absolutely can’t come to church, we broadcast our services live (and archive them) on our Facebook page. And, of course, if you’re not here you could go to a church wherever you happen to be.

13 Sundays. That’s it. That’s less of a commitment than most Netflix series.

And who knows, by the end of 13 Sundays you might have gotten following Jesus down a little better. And, you might have helped someone else follow Jesus a little better.